The One You Feed

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,

“Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

The only way to live our life with the peace and harmony that we all crave is to spend our energies focusing on and feeding the good and beautiful within us.

The websites and blogs that you choose to read in the morning to start your day has a huge impact on what tone and mood will be set for the rest of your day.  What you settle down and watch on tv, or scan online later at night feeds your sleeping soul with energies and messages whether you are aware of it or not.

If you are serious about taking control of, and pursuing a life of fun and beauty then you need to be aware of these things.

You should make it a practice to cultivate, curate, and have available in your immediate environment things that resonate and harmonize with the good and beautiful within you.  Books, websites, your choice of friends, the beauty of your surroundings, the tone of voice you choose…and the tone you allow in your presence, are all a part of the one you feed.

You must be aware of the one you are feeding.


How you should be feeding your soul daily?


Feed your smarter side

How are you growing your personal problem-solving skills?   You should be striving to learn something that is difficult and new on a daily basis.  Challenge yourself to tackle an area that takes your skillsets into previously uncharted territory.  The idea is to grow a little smarter every day.  To make each day count towards being a part of the progress we make to be the best that our potential allows.

Feed your spiritual side

Whether you identify as Buddhist, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Hindu, Atheist, Agnostic…or none of the above, we all have an inner compass that tells us the bearing of what we are experiencing.  We know from deep within when something bears right or wrong, whether it is a truth or a lie, good or evil, and so on.

“Without question, we KNOW right from wrong…we were born with that compass.”

Here is an example: Ever watch infants fight for their rights?  Observe them express anger and frustration because they feel slighted or wronged in some way?

Obviously they did not learn that from any book, mosque, temple or church.  It was already there.  They just KNOW.

The problem is if we do not, as the years pass by, nurture that intuitive moral compass, it can lose its sensitivity and accuracy. We can begin to react only to our selfish impulses rather than to the broader and more empathetic inner messages that come from our deeper moral compass…our inner spirituality.

Spend time reflecting on this.  Feed your inner spirituality on a daily basis so that you take control of your growth towards joy and peace. HOW much you enjoy the path that your life takes is greatly impacted by how much focus and feeding you give to your inner soul.

Feed your relationships

Let’s face it, there is a side to you that simply must get along with others.  We are all at some time or another a child, a friend, a sibling, a spouse, a parent, a neighbor, a citizen – something that connects us with others.  We are all in various forms of relationships simultaneously.  

  • How well are you doing at nurturing the side of you that must manage these relationships?  
  • How much thought have you given to your skillset in this area?
  • How would you life look if you improved this area?

Your relationships form the environment, within which you journey. Your ‘garden.’

The enjoyment and quality of your job, school, home, EVERYTHING that you are a part of is determined by the nature and quality of the relationships you have there. If you can improve your relationship building and maintenance skillset, you can go a long way towards cultivating the environment in which you travel this life.  

However, if you can’t improve certain relationships, because they may be too harmful or dangerous, you must also know: it is ok to let go.  The strength to leave bad and unhealthy situations behind is also a skillset that you must nurture, and a power you must protect.

In time, your nexus of accumulated relationships should be a reflection of your values.  Others should be able to look at the people that you allow to consistently be in your world and, in summary, understand YOU…who YOU are, and what YOU stand for.

Feed your body

The body is the seat of your soul; the temple that holds your moral compass; the outward manifestation of your very existence; and, for better or worse, it’s the one thing that stares back at you when you look into the mirror.  (If you see something else looking back at you in the mirror…uhm, you may wanna get some help for that…lol)

Taking care of and feeling good about your physical self directly connects with and plays a role in how you experience your inner self and, ultimately, your life journey.

Very few of us are gifted with the genetics or even desire to be world-class athletes.  And, in truth, some of the least healthy real terms…are extreme athletes.  Too much of anything leads to imbalance elsewhere and, at some point, requires correction – or sickness and ailment will present themselves.

True health and balance is all about simple and basic life habits that are practiced regularly.

  • Take long walks in beautiful settings.
  • Eat a variety of foods, all in moderation.  
  • Enjoy drinks low in sugar; water is always a good choice.  
  • Alcohol, like wine and gently mixed cocktails, add spice and zest; fun and balance…and in moderation, they also lead to a healthy body.  
  • Sleep in abundance. Your body tells you when it is tired.  
  • Sleep without guilt.  Your body will love you back.

The point is that you should take time to turn your inner mind towards listening to the cues that your body gives you.  Nobody knows your body as well as you do.  It usually tells you all you need to know.  

Learn to hear it talk, and listen to what it is saying.  If you do this you will give your temple the love it needs to walk your soul through life’s amazing, challenging and beautiful journey!

 Excerpt from the forthcoming book:  Funionaire: Change Your Focus, Change Your Life